Abigail is an exceptional young woman with something she didn’t ask for
As a child, Abigail was awesome. In primary school she was always in the Top 10 of achievers. She was well behaved, and liked by her peers and adults as well. We always received compliments and never had problems.
At 15 or 16 old, the nightmare began: we had no idea what we were dealing with, and thought that our daughter was a rebellious teenager. She began cutting herself, slipping out of the house at night. She started abusing substances. She fell pregnant in her final school year (we are the court appointed foster parents of our granddaughter, as Abigail couldn’t look after her child due to the effects of BPD). As an adult, Abigail’s life was hell, and as a consequence, me, her mother, and brother’s life was a nightmare, fuelled by conflict and chaos.
Abigail had sessions with school counselors, psychologists; there were ambulance trips to the hospital, phone calls from her at early hours of the morning. We were in a tither, and had no idea of what was going on and felt hopelessly lost. Her mother and I thought we were going to bury our daughter.
Self-mutilation, suicide attempts, and substance abuse continued. Feeling hopeless, we took Abigail to a psychiatrist, where she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. But the hell wasn’t over!
There was more self-mutilation, suicide attempts, disastrous relationships, expensive medication, rehab, therapy sessions. My financial situation changed drastically, very fast.My wife and I were emotionally and financially drained, and turned to Abigail’s psychologist and psychiatrist for an answer as to what we could do.
Light at the end of the tunnel
After a consultation with the psychologist and psychiatrist, they both advised that Abigail be admitted for long-term treatment. This was to be the 1-year program at Healing Wings Rehab and Behavior Treatment Center, where BPD and drug abuse treatment is available.
I contacted the center, obtained all the details, and then the shock struck home. The total cost for the 1-year program was just over $17,000. Fortunately, the option was available to pay for a 6-month period first, and then pay for the second 6-month period.
This was to save my daughter’s life, and give her a chance at leading a normal life, as well as give my granddaughter her mother back.
I loaned the money on my house, pushing my mortgage to the maximum.
On June 26, Abigail was booked into the center, and to date she is making slow but steady progress. Everybody who has spoken to her has seen a dramatic change.
Both her psychologist and psychiatrist strongly advised that Abigail complete the full 1-year program, and not any sooner.And therefore, the reason for my appeal here.
Background on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)Abigail has the uncommon BPD, and the past 10 years of her life have been hell!
The following are the 9 criteria of BPD (Abigail was diagnosed with 7 of the 9 criteria):
- Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
- A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
- Identity disturbance, such as a significant and persistent unstable self-image or sense of self
- Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)
- Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
- Emotional instability due to significant reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
- Chronic feelings of emptiness
- Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
- Transient, stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms
Your help can give my daughter a new life
I was able to raise the funds for the first 6-month period ($8500) of the program by loaning the money on my mortgage. Unfortunately, my mortgage is now at its maximum, and I cannot loan more (and even if could raise the funds on my mortgage, I’ll not be able to afford the repayments). We now need the $8500 for next 6 months of the treatment program.
At present we’re in desperate straits, and therefore I ask for your financial contribution to help my daughter deal with the terrifying demon known as Borderline Personality Disorder.
The power of your gift will give Abigail freedom from the emotional pain that has had her trapped in the hell she has been living the past 10 years.Give what you can today. We thank you for your generous support, from the bottom of our hearts.
Other Ways You Can HelpIf you cannot donate money, can I ask you to please spread the news of this campaign within your social network.
Many, many thanks.