A Plea from a Father
I have not seen my children in 3 years now. In that time, I have had false charge after false charged pressed against me, and while I beat every single one of these charges levied against me by a controlling, manipulating ex-wife, it has left me drained physically, and I have no savings left to speak of.
I have since moved to Puerto Vallarta to escape the endless cycle of having Police show up at my house, having my employers called, and the general state of harassment I have suffered that followed me across state lines.
While my life has been quiet now for about a year, I miss my children dearly. They are my heart and I was once theirs.
How did I "lose" my children?
The last time I held my children was when my Son told me his mother dated abusive guys who hit him. My daughter accused one of her boyfriends of assaulting her as well.
Bringing this up with their Mother caused her to get violent and loud. She was very drunk at the time and after assaulting my, then girlfriend, she took the kids from my apartment, leaving behind their shoes and half of their belongings to head out into the Mexican night.
I did not "stop" her from doing so, because I have had enough experience in dealing with her after 8 years of being married to her to know the only losers would be me and my children as they watched the mess unfold.
They got on a plane that morning and vanished and I have not seen them since.
What I am hoping to accomplish
I have spent about $40,000 and all my mental and emotional capacity fighting false charges drummed up by my ex to keep me from having the funds or the ability to participate in my children's custody hearings. I was never even notified that the divorce was happening or that I was losing my rights.
She claimed I was not available at the time, when in fact, she had me sitting in another state in jail on false charges. By the time I had my day in court and won my case there, I was handed my divorce papers, granting her full custody of our children and accompanied with a protection order stating I could not contact them.
I am drained, heartbroken, and devastated. I have not fought this in court up to this point because I don't want the trauma forced on my children. Yet I keep seeing social accounts started by my kids, with posts obviously meant as messages to me, only to have those accounts go inactive afterwards.
I want to hire a great lawyer who will FIGHT for my rights as a great dad. And I need YOUR help to do so!
Why would you help me, a complete stranger?
I am sure you have your own challenges to deal with in life. We all do. But if you are a FATHER, or a friend or relative of a FATHER, and you have seen how badly the system is stacked against Dads, then this IS your fight.
For far too long have women's issues been the only ones we talk about. No one wants to talk about good men and Fathers who are driven from their homes. Men who lose EVERYTHING to a corrupt court system and manipulative women.
Every Father who does not get bent over unwillingly by a system set against them is legal precedence to prevent the same thing from continuing to happen. Everyone wants to talk #YESALLWOMEN and no one wants to talk #YESALLFATHERS.
Please Help My Cause!!!!
Some day it may be your own!