If you would only give a dollar or 2 it will grow to the $2,500 that we need to get us to PA.
My name is Tom, I am 50 yrs old. At 5 years old I was taken from my family and raised by the state of New Jersey. In the early 1980's I served 2 tours in the US Marine Corp. I have a beautiful wife & 2 lovely daughters. I have worked for over 20 yrs in the facilities management field. I have always worked and taken care of my family and their needs.
In our off time my wife and I run a web site selling jewelry to try and make ends meet. On April 1st 2012, my wife and i were doing back links and social networking for our web site to gain ranks in Google I got a request from a David Wagenhoffer wanting to be FB friends and claiming to be my brother. I was beside myself, I asked my wife who do we know that would be so crude to think that pretending to be my brother would be a funny April fools joke.
On April 4th 2012, When i logged into Facebook I had another request this one from a Jason Murphy (Wagenhoffer). It said if you were born Steven Wagenhoffer on 3/15/62, born in Paterson NJ, taken to foster care in 1968? Then this us, your brothers and sisters, where you been the last 4 decades? We are all together except you, we been looking for you, please join us on facebook.
I just sat there and cried uncontrollably like a baby, I had no idea of what to do or say. I guess I was kind of scared to. Finally my wife notices me sitting at my laptop crying and asks what’s going on. When I told her about the invites she asks me so did you accept? No I said. Why she said? I don't know I replied. Well you do what you feel is right she told me. The next couple days I fought over if I wanted to except or not. What if they were wrong, and I'm not their brother, What if they don't like me? What if I don’t like them? What if were just different, you know? The questions I had were endless.
On April 6th 2012 I was talking to my wife about it and her being the sensible one said to me; why don’t you just except, check it out and if anything goes wrong you can just un-friend them. So that’s what I did, accepted the invites from David and Jason.
That was a Friday night, my whole life changed, At 50 years old I had just been introduced to my whole family. We set up a Wagenhoffers page on facebook and the family members just kept coming, all my remaining siblings Mike, Judy, Dave, Laura, Anna and Eddie all came. 14 nieces and nephews, the grand kids, i had just gone from having no family to having a family that rival the size of my wife’s family. We all talked till 4:00AM in the morning and were all back by 8:00AM
I learned so much about my family, it's history, what everyone’s been up to the last 44 years...you know the joke used to be when my kids asked about my family that I didn’t have one because I was hatched...now my kids tell me they never believed that anyway.
I learned of Joe my oldest brother and of his fate in 2010, RIP Joe.
We all still meet up and chat on Facebook every night. We share stories of our lives, memories of each other and share photos of our nieces, nephews and the grandbabies that we've never met.
My body becomes enlightened and my soul fills with joy as sometimes saying nothing I just sit and watch my brothers and sisters chat as I smile at there comments and wonder how life would have been. I love then so!
Naturally, we all would like to have a reunion, look each other in the eye and exchange hugs...just be able to really touch each other...for the first time in forever for many of us.
I would not be here right now if i could afford this trip on my own but the truth of the matter is I work my 60+ hours a week like most Americans and still have troubles making ends meet. I am a maintenance man; I drive a 1989 dodge truck that is the only car our family owns. I am far from being a rich man. I was just hoping to reach enough people with good strong family values that could show some compassion and donate a buck or two. My cause won’t do anything to change the world but maybe some people out there can find it a worth while cause to give a dollar to make about 50 people the happiest people on the planet.
What We Need & What You Get
Thank you for taking time to look at our campaign we need the money to allow us to drive to PA where we will unite with my 3 brothers, 1 sister their wives and husband, & children. As a family we need to reunite we have no choice. We love each other even after 44 years, the bond that binds us is still very real & still binds us to one another. We will never be complete until we can actually touch one another in a wonderful loving hug for the first time for some & the first for the others in 44 years.
If you have a sibling then you know how it would feel if you could not share the bonds that bind you with one another, it is lonely, and there is always a feeling as if something is missing.
We cannot describe in words what your donations will do for our family in this lifetime. We have always missed one another & knew that one day maybe we would be lucky enough to find one another again.
Now that it has become a reality it has become a DESPERATE need to finally one day be able to touch one another and share in the joys of each ones families & there accomplishments. The greatest gift of all will be to stand next to one another and to know these are our brothers & sisters and no one will ever be able to rip us from each others lives, ever again!!!
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Thank you so very much for taking your time to help me and my family finally reunite.