A BIG heartfelt Thank You to everyone who contributed to the campaign and helped us reach our initial goal in the first day!
Many of you sent books to male friends; several to prisons.
The main focus of this campaign going forward is to support as many men as possible in waking up emotionally to create a safer world for all of us. Whether these men are in prison, your life, or in your workplace, please support our goal for the remainder of the campaign to IMPACT at least 2000 men with 2000 books!
SPREAD THE WORD!
I’m on a mission to inspire my brothers to get our act together. You don’t need to see statistics to know men in all levels of society (bankers to bums) are messing up, whether they realize it or not. They’re acting out in stupid, selfish ways for reasons they often don’t fully understand and making life miserable for themselves and those who try to love them. Men in prison have to risk death, become fully accountable for their actions and responsible for their own healing before starting to live fuller lives. Men on the outside are imprisoned by emotional immaturity and lack of accountability that dearly cost them and the ones they love. Support our vision of providing one million men in crisis the practical guidance, tools, and inspiration they need so they can prevent and resolve conflict in their homes, workplaces, and communities.
Yes, ladies some of us, and hopefully soon a lot more of us, want to be real men.
When you ask how he is and a man says “fine”, he really means Frightened, Isolated, Neurotic and Emotionally unavailable. (FINE)
This campaign is for those of us seeking a safer world. We are coming together to co-write a powerful, persuasive book and get it into the hands of men in crisis everywhere. We will Crowd-Author a book and SEND IT TO PRISONS, BOARDROOMS AND CONGRESS, SO MEN WHO NEED IT CAN READ IT. Pledge and send a book to your boss, your buddy, your family member who needs to “Wake Up, Man Up, Step Up.” The book is described as: “a treasure map (for men) that if followed will lead you to your best self. It will help you see that the journey inside yourself is where the freedom is. Around the world, our communities - our men, women, and children need us to wake-up and step-up.”
What’s the difference between men and government bonds? Bonds eventually mature. (To be politically correct, there are many mature men, just not enough)
Unfortunately, for many men it takes a crisis like divorce, illness, losing their job or the death of a parent to get them to look inside. It was divorce for me. It woke me up and put me on this path to becoming an Integrative Coach with a law degree and certifications in money coaching, life planning, belief processing, as well as several years of facilitation and leadership training.
When women are depressed, they call a girlfriend. When men are depressed, they call for a war. (And yes, we are aware those are stereotypes)
I’m sure our co-authored book will work if we can get men to use it. They’ll come to understand why they do the things that DON’T WORK for them and learn how to start doing things that DO WORK. Too many men live stuck in unconscious patterns and wind up incarcerated.
- Help me get the book into the hands of men in prisons before they come back out still confused and angry.
- Help me get it to those men of power and privilege whose fear comes out as cruelty, corruption, war and winner-take-all callousness.
- Help yourself and the men in your life by getting this book into their hands!
Your stories matter!
Virtually every woman has been emotionally, physically or verbally abused by a man during her life, yet often they haven’t had a chance to speak up. Their stories should be told, and with your help we will include them in the new book. People need to see and feel what’s happening. Men need to understand the damage they’re doing by staying asleep. Almost every man reading this KNOWS or at least senses he could do better.
You as a man may have been emotionally, physically, or verbally abused and haven't had a chance to speak up. We want to hear from you too.
Pledge, so men get tools for manning up.
How the Money will be Used:
We're raising the money to produce and distribute books that include the stories of those who need to be heard. We’ll spend what’s contributed on:
- Layout & editing
- Promotion of the cause
Wake Up, men! It’s time for us men to stop running away from our responsibility.
Man Up! It’s time to heal ourselves and create peace and prosperity for women and children.
Step up! I’m asking you, men and women, to share your stories, photos, poetry, art and ideas around the effects men have had on your world and in the lives of your friends, families, and children.
now... THE REWARDS:
Pledge $5 or more.
WITH YOU IN MORE THAN JUST SPIRIT. Stand up and be counted as willing to take a stand against violence in our world. Men commit ninety percent of violent crime, often because they suffered as children and never were taught how to handle their feelings. Let your dollar be a gesture of compassion so boys will learn how to live love.
Pledge $15 or more.
CO-AUTHOR THE NEW BOOK. Nominate your story, photo, poetry or art for inclusion in the CROWD-AUTHORED book. Whether your story is included in the book or not your name will be listed on a special thank you page in the book. Please follow these submission guidelines.
Pledge $25 or more.
GET THE BOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO REALLY NEEDS A WAKE UP KICK IN THE ASS, LIKE YOUR BOSS, PARTNER, HUSBAND, EX-HUSBAND, BOYFRIEND OR YOURSELF. If you know a man you believe is ready to “Wake Up, Man Up, Step Up” we’ll send the 1st edition anonymously with a note that says “Someone in your life believes in you enough to buy you this book. They know you’re ready to “Wake Up, Man Up, Step Up” in your life and that your world, and theirs, will be better after you do.” (Digital version available)
Pledge $80 or more.
FOR WOMEN: ANSWER YOUR OWN WAKE CALL, STEP UP IN YOUR WOMAN’S POWER AND BECOME AN EFFECTIVE COACH FOR YOUR MAN. Get the 1st edition of the book and a spot for yourself in an ARATAcode two month online video course. Receive coaching from Ray to get your husband or lover to show up in your life in a way you’ve always wanted. If he’s facing his “wake up” call, currently in crisis or you’re having your own wake up and have decided something has to change “or else”, coaching can help. If you’re patient, you don’t try to rescue him (or let him off the hook) and he does his emotional work he might be able to show up in your life in a way you always knew was possible.
Pledge $200 or more.
SET UP YOUR OWN SUPPORT GROUP – A PEACE (AND PIZZA) COMBO. You’ll receive FOUR COPIES of the hardcover 1ST edition of “Wake Up, Man Up, Step Up” as well as a Support Group Starter Kit explaining how to set up your men’s support group. Give a book to three friends, form a quartet, keep each other accountable and see your lives transformed by using the ARATA code of conduct. You’ll also receive a pizza with the message “I’m for peace and pizza in my world” spelled out in olives, mushrooms or sausage, and delivered to your door to kick off your first meeting. Two additional books will be sent to a prison in your name.
Pledge $250 or more.
SEND HELP TO MEN IN CRISIS, GET ACKNOWLEDGEMENT IN THE BOOK & ON WEB SITE. We’ll use your donation to send 10 books to a prison, rehab center or community program that works with men looking for the tools to learn emotional maturity and a new way of being in the world. You can direct the books to a prison or program of your choice or select from our list. We’ll forward to you any mail we receive from the place we send your books. Your name will be added to the ARATAcode.com website to acknowledge your contribution and you’ll be listed in the book.
Pledge $850 or more.
THE ADVENTURE SERIES. You might be in your own crisis of sorts. You need something for yourself. Connect with yourself, others, and nature. Yoga, hiking, kayaking and more will be combined to create a fun adventure in nature during an ARATAcode outdoor experience. The combination of exercise and camaraderie with people present and willing to open into greater Awareness, Responsibility, Accountability, Tenacity, and Acceptance will fill you up with exactly what you need.
Pledge $4,000 or more.
HAVE RAY DELIVER A KEYNOTE AND CONDUCT BREAK OUT SESSIONS AT YOUR ORGANIZATION TO PROMOTE GENDER EQUALITY... You’ll receive a workshop for your business where I will empower participants to examine and own their biases and see the impact they create. I will reframe innovative ways of leadership. I will apply his emotional literacy principles for leadership and diversity so strategic imperatives gain everyone’s participation regardless of gender, race, culture, sexual orientation, or ethnicity.
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