Who I Am, My Story
I am the mother of a gay son and columnist with Utah's gay and lesbian magazine, QSaltLake.
When my son first told me that he was gay, I went through a ton of emotions in about 2 seconds. First, relief that he was ok and he was not breaking away from me and the family. Second, I was sad that he did not feel safe to tell me until he was out on his own attending college. Third, I was scared that gays, lesbians and transgenders are among the highest risk for suicide. Fourth, I was worried about how his father, sister and nan would take the news. Finally, I was happy that eventually I could have another incredible son-in-law.
Over these past eight years I have met and talked with a lot of gays and lesbians, who have shared their stories of hurt, struggles and tragedies with their families. I have also heard from some who have had great support from their parents.
I am a mom who absolutely loves my son, I am proud of his strength and his accomplishments, I am sad that he struggles with his own battles with being gay and his self-worth.
My life is blessed because I have a gay son, I have become involved in the LGBT community and have received love and acceptance; more than I ever received from friends and colleagues. I absolutely love the LGBT community and am passionate about helping moms and children see the love and blessings that is theirs if they are willing to receive.
Why the Moms' View Project
I have talked with other moms who have gone through their own struggles and sometimes hell. These moms are successful business owners, they have very busy lives and some have left their marriages because their husbands would not accept their children.
Moms are fighters. We will go to battle to protect our children and keep them safe. We feel the rejection that tears at our hearts when our children are rejected, hated and thrown away.
We moms hold it together for the sake of our children, but we feel the anger at ourselves for not knowing or the guilt that maybe we did something to cause them to be different. We ourselves have to come to terms with our own beliefs and hang-ups about sex and intimacy.
But in the end all that matters is love, with love we can work through the pain, confusion, anger, rejection, and guilt. With support, we create new insights to life for ourselves and our children.
What it Will Be
I ask for your help to launch Moms View Podcast an internet radio show, where moms and their LGBT children can share their stories and be heard. This will be a place of support and caring and a place of resources. I will be creating an interactive website with links to non-profit organizations that help the LGBT and their families and a place of upcoming events and news
Why do this? When a mom is told that her son or daughter is gay, lesbian or transgender where does she go for help to answer her questions? Most the times to the internet, where you can read stories, find links to organizations but podcasting is a venue where you hear the stories and hear the struggles and the victories, where the questions are answered quickly, where you can download them and listen when it is convenient.
Why should you contribute?
Moms need help, moms need to have more understanding and education, this is a great place to start. If you are a mom, help me help other moms. If you are gay, lesbian, transgender or bi-sexual, help me to educate moms, to help them understand how incredible you are. Any size contribution is greatly accepted and appreciated.
I have a friend who is giving his mom my first three articles that were published in QSaltlake Magazine for Christmas with the hope that it will help her to understand him more. His father still does not talk to him.
How much more valuable would it be to send her a podcast with a mom talking about what she went through and that love is all that matters?
Please donate today. Thank you
Other Ways You Can Help
Please help get the word out to make this a succesful campaign. Please join the Facebook group at http://www.facebook.com/groups/435724376477413/ and invite your friends and family to do so as well.