What it's about:
My mom set aside her career dreams to support my father, and raise their children while he pursued his career in the Navy. In return she got a husband who cheated on her, and treated their kids like crap.
Then, when he retired from the Navy he spent months doing nothing but moping around the house until she said she was going to go find work. At that point he went out to find a job, because he wasn't going to be stuck at home with the kids while she had a job.
Then after only a year of retirement he left her. While she was out of state with their two youngest kids visiting friends of the family he packed what he wanted, and left to go be with the woman he'd been cheating on her for at least two years, maybe more.
He looked my little siblings in the eye, and swore to them that he would be there when they got back from their trip. They came home, and found he was gone. He didn't take any family photos, picures of the kids, or anything they'd given him over the years for father's day or any other holiday.
He took clothes, some personal belongings, and left. For the next few years he barely even tried to see them. Even though he was traveling through town for his new job. After about four years of this he filed for divorce, and then sought custody of my siblings.
Even called to yell at my mom after he married his mistress, because the judge said he couldn't get custody so long as he was living in a house with a woman who wasn't his wife. When my siblings would visit him during his court approved visitation times he would spend money on them, make promises to them he never intended to keep, and played the good parent.
Knowing that when they got home they would grow to resent our mother for the rules she had for them. Making them do chores, homework, and not allowing them to go out with friends until late on school nights. They were teenagers so of course it was easy for our father to buy their love.
He has spent years tormenting my mother, using his large income to drag her through the mud, and make her life miserable. He has taken so much from her, and now he seeks to take the last thing she has left. Her home. He controls everything about her alimony. Doesn't even have it set up to go directly to her as he is supposed to, but instead has it go directly to pay the mortgage. He says he does this, because he doesn't trust her to pay it herself.
Just another excuse in a large list of excuses my father has for the reasons behind his disgusting treatment of my mother. My father is in violation of several court orders, but his expensive lawyer does her job to keep him from getting into trouble. My mother's incompetent legal aid lawyer has failed to do anything to actually help my mother.
My father even had my mother spend over 24 hours in jail without her medicine, and all out of his need to be petty. While she was in jail he was in Vegas partying with his mistress wife. While he's trying to take my mother's home from her he just got a second home in Utah where he will be moving with his mistress wife at the end of January.
His other home in PA will be left in the care of my younger sister. When I lived with him in 2009 I saw a man who threw lavish parties for family/co-workers/friends, who took expensive vacations several times a year, and whose biggest worry was about his friends/co-workers finding out about his drug addicted youngest children and that one of them (his son) had a criminal record.
This is a man who looked me in the eye, and told me he never wanted me. That his life would have been better if I'd never been born. This man does not deserve to get his way anymore, and I am hoping that with your help I can finally show my dad that he can't have everything his way. With your help, I can save my mom, and give her back some hope.
What We Need & What You Get
This is what we need:
- $38,000 to pay off the existing mortgage on the house, and put the house fully in my mother's name.
- $20,000 to make repairs to the house.
- $2,000 to get my mother a proper attorney. We already raised most of that, but after fees (they take more of raised funds if you don't meet your goal) we didn't get the full amount needed.
What will happen if this fundraiser succeeds:
- Allow my mother to spend her time reaching for her dreams instead of spending her time in a living nightmare worried that she's going to be dragged from her home, and end up on the streets.
- Fix her home so it's beautiful again.
- Give her hope again.
Other Ways You Can Help
Ways to help if you can't donate:
- Pass this fundraiser page along to friends, family, and co-workers via social networking sites or word of mouth. Ask them to do the same, and that will hopefully help in raising the funds in time.
- This site has easy tools for sharing, please use them to help.
- Simply click the like button on this fundraiser to help raise my gogo factor, and help this campaign reach more people.
Any, and all help is greatly appreciated.
When picking a perk please be sure to note if your address/email is needed in order to receive the perk or if other information is needed. If you have any questions please feel free to email me at: Asecondchance2013@gmail.com
You can also mail donations to:
PO Box 1111
Goose Creek, SC 29445